| 一直在想Gender Issue，對又在想東想西。書，教曉我很多。 Promise can provide large degree of secure and comfort to girl, as when girl loves , she has already devoted all, so need the otherside to promise to do so. but promise also makes boys fearful for 3 reasons:
1. boys cannot gurantee their love will be forever, as boys don't hv the courage
2. boys cannot ensure once promised, it would be intrumentally used or was taken advantange of, not real love
3. boys cannot ensure if the other side would break the promise, making his promise not-valuable at all it mentioned if girl really devote heart to u , it would be running much faster than boy can imagine, which includes marriage, babies and many many future, and this would overwhlemingly stressful to boys as at a great extent , boys could only provide a good presence but not yet a good fortune,until really get committed to marriage. that's boy should be able to warm down the speed up devotion, as relationship takes time to become mature, it will be more safe to 2 people future... ... but it also mention ... committment is also commiting an uncertainty, enough courage would ensure this and overcome difficulties. Thanks, Jonas.
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